Saathiya:

it's about how people change after marriage and problems in married life...

Romantic Love:

We enter relationships through the doorway of romantic love. This is a time when people report feelings of elation, exhilaration and euphoria. Partners will say things like, "Oh, I can't live without you," and/or "It seems like I've always known you. I feel whole when I'm in your presence." This feeling is strongest in the presence of one's partner. It is during this period of time we can go without much sleep. If we have been depressed, we are less so. Addictions seem to subside and so on. This stage is what our society calls real love. Movies, books, television, songs, etc. focus on this period because it feels so great. But it is not real love. It is only nature's way of bringing two people together. It is supposed to happen and supposed to come to an end. Most people do not know this. It is like we have found something that we were told we would never have. We feel so loved and authentic. We have waited a lifetime for a connection to someone like this and we don't want it to end. Then comes the power struggle.

The Power Struggle:

After romantic love ends, the next stage of a relationship is called the power struggle. It, too, is supposed to happen and supposed to end. However, this phase does not feel as good and disillusionment arises. It is here that we are most aware of the differences between ourselves and our partner. Conflict arises as a result of the belief that these differences are not good for a relationship when in fact they are. This conflict is growth (both personal and relational) trying to happen. It promotes a way to differentiate from one's partner and for each to keep a sense of self and also be a couple. Thus, it seems easier to terminate the relationship, have affairs, and engage in addictions rather than face the conflict and fear of losing ourselves. Many also feel that it is confirmation that we cannot have relationships. The good news, however, is that the power struggle we face with our partners is a positive indicator that we are with the right person. It is that person who will challenge us to make necessary changes for ourselves. It is an opportunity to maintain closeness while still maintaining one's own individuality. Isn't that what we want for ourselves from society as a whole and from our families anyway? To be who we are, they who they are and to allow the differences to exist. Incompatibility is grounds for a relationship and is the norm for partnerships. If you don't know this information and what to do about working it through you can walk away from your dream partner.Real love, mature love can only emer emerge once partners move through romantic love and the power struggle. Commitment is a pledge to remain true to your mate throughout good and bad times. Commitment is easy when times are good. Commitment can be extremely difficult when times are bad. Learn to ride out the bad times.

Real Love...

Can Only Emerge once Partners Move Through Romantic love and the Power Struggle. Listen to each other, be willing to compromise, and remember why you got together in the first place.

Love is worth the effort ...

the end

Comments from a friend: People get married before they completely know each other. They are still in the initial stages. Once married ...they see the differences. I've seen ppl go thro it. I guess its difficult to understand if u haven't experienced or seen other's experience but i guess it would help people who are going through the power struggle stage to realise what they are going through is normal that's what the movie is about.

Wonder why is it called power struggle. I guess because each one, the guy and girl are trying to retain their stand on things and not ready to compromise on differences. But why marry if you have to compromise. I guess people are always mistaken that the right person for you is the one who shares all your interests and there are no differences. But I guess no two people can be identical, and we should accept and respect one another. And good marriages are based on understanding and communication and how well two people can sort out problems. Because problems will always be there. Rather than searching for someone with similar interest but no understanding or communication.